I Want to Fly
Updated: Jul 6, 2018
I have changed, I don't worry about autism anymore, it does not bother me at all.
One evening, when he was around two and a half years old, I saw him watching a hummingbird outside, very focused. I put down my TV remote and walked near him. He was still focused. I wanted to understand his curiosity, so I asked many questions. Do you want to see the bird? Do you want to touch the flower? Do you want to go outside? He finally turned around and said, "I want to fly."
We are Born Creative
Sir Ken Robinson explains in one of his ted talks that, "We are all born with immense, natural, creative abilities. Children demonstrate them all".
Dr. George Land from NASA writes in his scientific research and evidence "We are born creative geniuses,"
We are all born creative, so, although some of our children have difficulties showing it, that does not mean they are less capable than us. We, the adults, need to know them more to make it easier to convey their creative geniuses.
No More Surprises
Its been eight years, trying to understand autism. During this time, I have seen my son losing his speech and skills to play, draw, and dance while mostly spinning, repeating, making strange noises, and whistling. Once in a while, he talked using full sentences and played appropriately. I called it a "surprise" and prayed for more of it. Since knowing him more, I realized that he did communicate and express all the time and that it was I who missed it. Now, rewatching his old videos tells me this. So, I am the one who needs a "replay."
Forget the Label
The time I spend with my son is mostly fun; it may be sitting with him in his tent, watching youtube under the comforter, and dancing in the shower. These fun things helped me know more about him, mostly his likes and abilities. Now when I ask him to do some chores, he does help with a "side" smile. We do not celebrate when he does these things; just a thank you, as he is 12 years old. This made a significant change in me. I don't worry about autism anymore, it does not bother me at all.
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